• You have been a HUGE inspiration & strength for me these past few months Lori. Thank you. – Susanna G

  • You inspire me Lori! There is something about your energy that even from afar you’re helping me to create my own strong, beautiful, inspiring energy to share with others. – Leslie G

  • O…M…G!! Real Beauty Is has become one of my favorite & best sources for feel good, life-affirming, fantastically great advice & insights for recharging & living my best life as ME! – Leslie S

  • What an advocate you are for our TRUE selves Lori. You are one of the lightkeepers who reminds me to keep following this liberating path. I love you. And your heart. And your words. – Wendy K

  • Lori, You are such bright white light. ♥ – Stephanie A

  • Just wanted to say, Real Beauty Is: You are AMAZING for supporting all of us! – Mindful Moms Network

  • Thank you for all the good work you do, for shining brightly, and helping each of us to believe in our own selves! – Mary R.

  • “Keep up your warrior ways for truth and beauty!” – xo Jennifer Buffett

  • “Lori, The sessions I had with you have been the best sessions ever! You really tune in and really listen. They have helped a lot & given me much clarity.” – Bonnie Barrios, Professional Organizer & Lifestyle Coach

  • “Lori Fields: Connect with her and be inspired.” – Rebecca Casciano, Makeup Artist, Educator & Holistic Wellness Consultant

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How Come I’m Not Happier?

June 3, 2014

Just a quick note on this Saturday morning to remind you that’s it’s never worth suffering through something you really don’t want to do.

This morning I got up early with the 3 kids so my husband could enjoy an extra few hours in bed. I changed diapers, made everyone breakfast, got everyone dressed and did my best to keep the kids quiet and entertained until my husband got up. Once he did I handed them all over to him to take to the playground so I could give myself an hour of “me” time.

This “me” time never would have happened if I didn’t set the conditions to make it happen. But I did. And now I’m sitting here in peace and quiet, sipping my coffee while writing this quick note to you.

I’m sharing this with you today because I know (very well) how easy and habitual it can become to suffer through. It can feel so natural that we don’t even realize we’re suffering because we’ve become so accustomed to soldiering through.

We convince ourselves that we don’t really need time to ourselves or a break or a change in our status quo because giving that to ourselves feels far more uncomfortable and scary than just suffering through.

As I learn the importance of this lesson myself, I want to share it with you.

Suffering through is a miserable, draining and unhealthy way to live your days. It’s exactly what leaves you drained, frustrated, stressed out and constantly asking yourself:

How come my life doesn’t feel better?
How come I’m not getting what I really want?
How come I”m not happier?

Here’s why.

Because you’re suffering through.

And every single time you suffer (in the big ways and the small) you reinforce the very dangerous message that you are not worthy of having what you really need : the quality of your life doesn’t matter.

This message of unworthiness sent to yourself over and over again, day in and day out, each time you devalue what it is you really need; destroys your life. Seems extreme. But it’s true.

Here’s the really great news. It’s easier than you think to get your life back on track.

It begins with small moments each and every day of paying attention to and then giving yourself what you really need. It can be as simple as a great cup of coffee, to 15 minutes of alone time, to going for a run. It can be anything. At any time. But it has to be defined by you.
 

Small moments of worthiness repeated over and over again is exactly what it takes to bring you closer and closer to what you want most.

 
It can be really easy to dismiss this advice because it seems too simple. Please don’t. This is not just random advice. This is exactly what works. Simple brings power every. single. time.

Would you like a little extra help giving yourself what you really need? I’d love for you to join my Group Practice for the month of June.

We’ll meet inside a private and safe community and this is exactly the kind of stuff we’ll be talking about:

How do we get started giving ourselves what we really need?
How do we really put an end to suffering though?
What makes it feel so hard?
Why worthiness is the X-Factor that helps us find our way.

You’ll get my help and the support of the group as we tackle it all. It might just be the greatest gesture you ever made towards ending your suffering for good.

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feel good tip of the day

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Understanding who you REALLY are is one of the most exciting and valuable decisions you will ever make in your life because on the other side of it is the beautiful life you were meant to have and the woman you’ve always wanted to be.

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